clearing my misconceptions!

I’m too lazy to write this, but let’s get on with it.

I have been having few misconceptions, time to clear them up.

• 1.GOD WILL MAKE THINGS RIGHT

So my mom says keep praying, things will turn out good. The only thing you can do when things are out of your hand is to pray to god. I just wonder how is that going to change the things, how does this act of mine has effect on the things already done? How is god going to intervene and make things right, when I very well know I have lost the battle. What powers does prayer has? At the most, it can only calm me down, giving a false relief that I am continuing my efforts and not just sitting idle.

Huh. From childhood I have been told that god is watching us. Do good things and god will reward your work; if you do wrong god will punish you. He will make things right at end; he is always by your side guiding you, looking upon you. I no longer believe in this idea, it does not make any sense to me now.

Nothings happens on its own, even the earth has to rotate on its axis for the days and night to occur. So you work - you get result. If you do not work for things you want, leaving everything on god will only disappoint you in the end. And what is done is done, nothing can change the effects of the things done in past. Your future depends on the work you do, only you can live your life, god can’t do that for you. 
Things don't happen to you just because god has decided it for you. Life is just a collection of random happenings, nothing is decided before hand by any super being.

And one more stupid thing I hear about god is that if we behave accordingly, as the rules laid down by god we will have a happy after life. Seriously?? When we are not sure about being alive the very next day, how can someone guarantee about things happening to us after we die. Doesn't make sense to me.

Between science and god none has emerged a winner. Science has not been successful to explain all theories concerned with this life and universe. Equally theories about god haven't proved anything with substantial evidence . So that leaves us with something out there is in this world which we are unaware of. And mind you this thing doesn't grant you any wishes or doesn't do any favors if you recite few difficult verses or if you fast for a whole month.

But something does exist, beyond our knowledge. We are yet to know that.

•     2.OTHERS HAD IT EASY!

Even I am tempted to believe this most of the times. That I am the one struggling and having a hard way to get things I want from life. Whereas the other people I know, had things easy. They got everything they needed at the exact time of their want. They didn't have to wait or face any sort of disappointments. But this is not true. We all have our own struggles and we are so deeply messed up with our stuff that we take it for granted that other people are having a easy way compared to us.

Not everyone shares his or her struggle. Even the people around me may not know that at this very moment I am fighting the biggest battle of my life. Just because I keep a smiling face, they might think everything is going fine with me. That isn't the case though.

And coming to reaching the goals at different time. I have no answer for that. but I do know that none had it easy. Each one of us had to pay a price for the things they desired.

• 3. GIRLS AND BOYS ARE EQUAL.

Girls are not inferior to guys neither are they superior.  So we are left with the equality function. That is not the case though. Girls and boys are not equal; its same as saying an orange is equal to an apple. We know it is not true. Both taste differently, neither are they equal nor is there anything as superiority or inferiority among them. Same thing goes with gender too, I think gender is something we should stop comparing and competing, both men and woman are unique and equally important. But a man is a man and a woman a woman. They cannot switch places to prove that they are equal to each other. Isn't possible physically or physiologically too. (I am speaking about the major portion of population here leaving out the few exceptional cases).

• 4.       LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES!

‘Love is blind’, love has no boundaries etc.  All this occur at the will of the person concerned. You cannot generalize this statement. I do not want to get deep into this. But this statement doesn't hold good, at least for a greater percentage of population of India, where we are very much concerned about the religion, caste creed things to name few. True love actually doesn't have any boundaries. But many people aren't aware of true love.

• 5.       LOOKS DO NOT MATTER!

Well looks do matter. I don’t feel good about myself after gaining 10kg of weight. I was much more confident and active when I was healthier. Weight brings along laziness and a feeling of insecurity. Can go very deep into this discussion, but it will be a very silly one. Cause even our commonsense says that looks do matter, to what percentage that varies from person to person.

• 6.       FRIENDS ALWAYS WANT OUR GOOD.

This statement is true but it is incomplete. Friends always want our good but not better than them. We want our friends to be happy and achieve all the success they deserve. But the moment they overtake us, that uneasy feeling creeps in, which creates a distance. it happens as our levels get changed, the comfort level also changes. The connection once shared starts varying off.  This happens usually, excluding the relationship with best friends though.

• 7.       FEAR

This one is not my own, I read it somewhere. It goes as, ”danger is very well real, but fear is a choice.” fear is an illusion, it’s something created by our mind. It is a result of our thoughts. It actually cripples us, makes us less efficient in facing the situation at hand. It needs a lot of training for our brain to realize this fact. But once we do, then there is no looking back. There will not be anything pulling you back or keeping you off from the things you always wanted to do.

• 8.       FAILURE

There is winning and there is losing, but there isn't a thing called failure. No one is a failure. It’s just that we all reach our destination at different times, few very early, few late but that doesn't mean we have failed in our journey.

• 9. KARMA SETS THINGS EVEN

No it doesn't. Its all bullshit. Life isn't fair and karma doesn't play any role in setting things straight. Not many get what they deserve. Most of the people at fault don't get punished and there are many who suffer for no fault of theirs. You can't expect the life to be fair to you because you have played a fair game all along. Its a losing battle, to expect or predict how things will turn shape.
Not everything makes sense in this world. And most of the times every action doesn't have any equal and opposite reaction, that hold good only in science labs or with any mechanical device but not to human life.

• 10. RIGHT AND WRONG

There isn't any right or wrong way of leading life or doing any trivial thing for that matter. Those are just opinions of the majority and majority doesn't automatically approve it to be right way.

Most of the times we find it easy following the crowd or doing the things what others are doing or have already done. As we are social animals and we live in a society we get bound by all these rules and norms. For the fact unless we don't intrude into others privacy and do not cause any harm directly or indirectly, what we do with our lives shouldn't matter to any other person except us.