just don't...

[ for all those who love me! ;) ]





Don't love me for my looks..
I may be ugly someday.

Don't love me for my riches..
Everything may turn into rags someday.

Don't love me for my fame..
I may be unknown someday.

Don't love me because i love you..
I may have another say someday.

Love me only when you have enough love to share..
Which may keep you going even if life parts our way!!

let free...

Suicide

Very disturbing word it is indeed… what actually drives people to such an extreme step?? I don’t really know! But I have found through electronic media, people talking about how happy they will be if their life just ends, hoping it will put an end to their problems and grievances. Well such thoughts creep up in the mind of many people at least once, at some point of life.

So is it really necessary for us to end our life as a solution to our problems??

The present competitive educational system has lead many young students to commit suicide just for not faring well in one among the many tests they are put through! And such news spreads like wild fire, mostly favored by our booming electronic media. And there’s a blaming game between the child’s parents and these profit centered educational institute. Soon this becomes a hot news among all the college students, victim’s relatives, in the neighborhood..

The marks which could have been known to just few people are now known to people who were no-where related to that poor kid. Just to escape from little shame, that teenager unfortunately brings shame to the entire family and his innocent past memories.

Same case with love failures, giving up their lives just messes up everything.

Family, financial conditions are some of the few reasons pushing many to this critical decision. But just give a thought that when we are dare enough to face death, which happens to be the ultimate thing any living form can experience, what is it like to face these petty materialistic problems?? Cake walk! Aint it??

Let us think you are really determined to end your life, then why can’t you put the same determination in making a new beginning?? You always have the option of resorting to that extreme step when all your attempts drastically fail. Move to new surroundings, make a new start, lead a life you desire…coz only man has got the finest boon of doing things he want himself, and also making other living forms to follow his instructions.

Death is unavoidable and definite for each living form that is born. But we aren’t sure of life. None can guarantee of life after death. So why to waste this precious opportunity we are blessed with, just because of few unworthy people or some useless situations.

Start living for yourself, there is no need for us to prove ourselves to anyone.

HAPPY LIVING! :)

never before

Never before

Never before I felt this way

Never before I gained loads without any pay.

Never before did I see the whole world in just two eyes

Never before did I know that angels descend in disguise.

Never before I enjoyed any pain

Never before it was fun going insane.

Never before I feared if my life is short

Never before I realized the value of time plot.

Never before I was comfortable in speaking not truth but lies

Never before was I longing for someone, an emotion which never dies.

Never before did I know my life wasn’t only my own

Never before I came across such price less thing, none of the richest can loan.

Never before I knew the magic just the presence of someone brought

Never before absence of anyone turned even the monsoon into draught.

Never before was I ready to give off my life.

Never before it mattered to take on any strife.

Never before did I love anyone more than me..

Never before..

Ever before..

Did I realize that ‘YOU’ and ‘ME’

is ‘I’ but not ‘WE’

And let me tell, this is the best way I found to be...

UNIQUELY COMMON

uniquely common....

That is what I am. That is what actually everyone is. Some of us have an impression that we are just too common. Some think they are absolutely unique. Both of which aren’t facts.

Since ages I used to think that I am just very common. Lately I reckon that I am unique. Finally now I realize that I am commonly unique or say uniquely common...

I am not irreplaceable, none actually is. You can find many who can do what all I do. They might be even better than me. And may be even I am capable of replacing someone else. So this whole thing makes all of us common.

But you can only replace someone but can’t completely fill up the vacuum left by them. Some things we share only with few. Feelings, compatibility, rapport, frequency, affinity etc very from person to person, making each one of us unique.

Wondering why I am messing up with this topic??

I always had this fear that my friends may forget me if they find someone else like me. Or may be someday my sister will take over my position in my family. These things may very well be true. But now I make out that we all are replaceable (be happy unless you and your boss are replaceable you will not be promoted)... replaceable only at few dimensions of life. You cannot be unique to your working arena, similarly even when you are the common family post of say husband you are still unique to your wife. Irreplaceable at least to her hopefully :p

So now I know that I have my own uniqueness in my family and in my friends circle. And I’ll not be sad if someday my sis occupies my space or if my friends share similar vibrancy with someone else. Because I know such things will happen only in my absence and its better to be replaced than forcing our loved ones to live in the vacuum left by us...However unique that emptiness may be..

FORWARD MESSAGE!!

You got a mail.....

“Hey check this out
don't laugh at this! Just do it!

You have just been visited by Dr.Suess's Cat in the Hat. He will grant
you one wish.
Make your wish when the count down is over.

10..

9..

8..
.
.
.
3 ..
...

2.
1..

MAKE A WISH

Send this to 10 people within the hour you read this.
If you do, your wish will come true! . If you don't it will become just the opposite”

I usually delete such mails even without going till its end. But this time I thought let me give it a try!!

I closed my eyes…

Made 3 wishes (I was supposed to make only one)…

Anyways here goes my wish list.

1. . Let there be no college the next day.
2. . Let people stop forwarding such crap messages.
3. Fulfill all the above wishes even if I don’t forward this message to anyone.

I counted till 10…then slowly opened my eyes.

I had to wait for another 24hrs to find out if that message really worked.

I didn’t have even cinch of hope that this whole thing meant any sense.

It totally went off my mind.

The next morning…

My cell phone beeped.

There was a sms from my friend. Which read..

“no colg 2day! :)”

Whoa! That one was least expected!

Oh my GOD! I bet that thing actually worked!!

So let’s check out my wish list..

1. No college the next day – fulfilled :)

2. We will look at the 3^rd one before we go to 2^nd wish.

3. Fulfill my wishes even if I don’t forward this message to anyone – fulfilled :)

(great the wishes are granted even if we don’t complete all the formalities ;) )

2. Stop such forward messages - ??!! Damn I don’t want this to stop when it’s

actually working!

So what am I to do to get such messages again?

I forwarded that message to my entire friends list. Adding an important note in the

start.

Important note:

This really worked for me. Check it out. But first forward this message to me.

Haha… finally I was successful.

The same message started pouring in my mail box!

Meanwhile I happened to cancel out two of my own wishes.

I forwarded that message to whole of my gang and my mail box was flooding with that previously called CRAP message.

But I was happy that at least my first wish still lay intact. And that I was at home enjoying my holiday.

My cell phone beeped..

This time again it was a sms from my friend. Which read :

‘it wasn’t a holiday 2day..der was a wrong info passed..v al lost our attendance..sorry yaar’

Huh!! You really expect anything after this!!!??

Happy Times..

Phase change...

So we have this plan of making a family trip to RFC the next morning and I am still sitting before the system till early morning 2!!..doing nothing or say doing everything to escape from tomorrow’s trip. I wanted to visit that place since years and it was always the family trip that was planned. I was very much ok with it, in fact I was excited to the core. But when finally the time has come I am behaving so indifferent. I admit our family is going to have great time there, but lately I have been used to roaming about just with friends and even now I picture myself having fun with my friends at that very same RFC..[I am sick of thinking so!]


Strange how our priorities change without our knowledge right. Earlier the whole world used to revolve only around two people..MOM and DAD! But now they are the last option we are left with when our friends drop out at the final moment from any plan. Though this isn’t strictly a case with me, but I’ve few friends who usually face such circumstances.
With age the bonding with our family weakens and we get more attached with folks of our age i.e. our friends. Sharing everything..from the tiniest to the most grim matters with them. Mean while we don’t bother to realize that the family that loved us as a child still holds the same love and concern for us. Your mom still hopes that you will go over to her and share your day’s happenings as you used to do when you were a school kid, but all that she sees is that as soon as you get back from your college or hostel you stick to that mobile or system of yours sharing your thoughts not with the person just in front of you but with someone somewhere far who too is in the same scenario as you are..


But I guess this entire fad is part of growing up. Even our granny may feel dejected that our mom/dad is taking out more time for their children rather than for their parents. So this feeling is very common to each of us and we experience it in hell different ways at some point or the other. I don’t say that we shouldn’t trek around with our buddies (or with our individual families when we speak about parents). It’s just that there is no harm if at times we hang around with our mom and dad, making them a part of our fun or else we becoming a part of their happy moments which they have been waiting for quite a long time [family gatherings they call]


Guess it’s easy to say all this but tricky to pull off. Because whenever we are with our parents or say elders they cannot actually stop complaining or advising us. And if you are ready to call that entertaining then BRAVO!! you are the kid every parent of a teenager would appreciate to have.
For rest of the kids like me I deduce even the parents have to put in some effort. Like how about they travel back in time to their teenage period. That sounds cool, doesn’t it!?? It will be easy for them to match up with our frequencies then. We can very well feel comfortable in their company. Logically it’s easy to relive the past than envision the future. Genuinely we can’t understand the elders but they can easily understand us as they too have been through our phase some time back. Anyways that option is left with parents. We can’t actually compel that on them. (If done so it may certainly give way to some new misunderstanding.) But the effort has to be made from both sides. Sometimes more by them and sometimes less by us. ;) What matters at the end of the day is that we are part of each others blissful moments and all that we want is a happy family!!

NOT so RANDOM!!

My thoughts... huh! even I get amazed at the weird things which creep into my brain. I recollect during my childhood I just used to picture nothingness. Like how will it be if there was no man, no animal, no life, no planets, no stars, no galaxy, no universe..just nothing!! Nothing at all! Still there must be something existing even in this oblivion. Some force; unknown form of energy. That something has taken up the place of GOD or the SUPREME DIVINE in my life. Creating some kind of fear, love, and respect for the unknown. Someone who knows me more than I do. Someone who helps me get back that smile on my face. Realizing that no matter what happens that unknown force will always be by my side.

Smile

Smile is contagious they say. So it’s like half of the time I am smiling for my own reasons and rest half of the time it’s the smile I catch from other cheerful souls around. Smile freely..it helps you to unload all types of tensions or problems, no matter how serious they are. And smile doesn’t always symbolize happiness it also conveys that we have the courage of facing any kind of situation. One more thing to add..the best way you can improve your looks is by having that smile on your face. Keep smiling! :)

Friendship and love

Is there any relation in this world which doesn’t find its base as love?? Friendship is the best and most precious form of love. You can have anyone as your friend. Age, language, sex, relation etc has nothing to do with friendship. Your dad or your mom or even your sibling can be your best friend. Love and friendship are inseparable. We can be our own friends and acting selfish is a way of admitting that we love our self.

People around the world have named the various forms of love by different relations. Yet there are few forms of love which cannot be just framed under any dictionary word. Family...it too runs on the fuel of love. So when there is so much of love around we still find people complaining that the so called true love hasn’t yet entered their life!! But just reflect when we are unable to perceive the already present love around us, will we be able to make out when the so called love passes by!?

Life

Confusing people give confusing statements on life. Our life belongs more to us than any person on this entire planet. Try living it your way, make your own choices, and use your brain. Reading books, success stories..just gives us an idea about life, but they cannot assure us of how to make a living.

But anyway would anyone like to be known as second part of some Mr.X, who has already lived his life his way. Following breathe to breathe, day to day someone else’s life. We will be no better than trivial shadow then. And yeah you need not be someone else to taste success; it can very well belong to you.

So don’t stop or interrupt the production of the brand new product called ' I '. It may not be perfect, but it will be a unique model with its own benefits and defects. With its own originality and freshness.

That’s

LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE!!

funda!

let the game begin....

Angels and Games

Women SPORTS!! The games which flash in our minds when we hear those word are tennis, badminton, swimming, volleyball (especially the beach game)… but rarely does cricket come into our note. Wonder why is it so even in India, where cricket comes almost next or say on par with the Bollywood.(which happens to be the most popular source of entertainment and an integral part of many Indians’ life) I just speculate if the popularity acquired by these games is directly related with the glamour in the game..Or say it’s inversely related to the length of the sports wear these ladies put on! ;)

Anyways we are more interested in the game rather than its esteem! :D

Recently there was a sports meet at our college and various games were played. The most interesting being cricket especially the girls cricket. In fact it was me who added that stirring factor to that game by joining the team! ;) hehe

We were intended to play against our immediate senior batch girls. Two days (just some 6hrs to be precise) was all the time we had for our preparation. And this practice session turned out to be more fun than the real match which was played.

Cricket.. all that we knew about this game was through the idiot box...and all that we ever played was galli cricket (in my case its terrace cricket). We had no hopes of putting a good show on the match day. It isn’t that our seniors were any professional players, but they had already played more matches of cricket than we did, so even at sports they turned out to show their precedence!

We didn’t lose our hope though and got onto the field for practice. And as they say good things happen to virtuous people, few “ANGELS” descended to guide us through this crisis. Oh my GOD!! What angels were they! :p (guys of my own class) I actually thought that these angels came up to assist on their own, but I was later informed that it was arrangement made by someone among girls.

Scores of techniques, many tricks and clear idea about everything related with the game, we girls were enthralled by seeing the forte of our angels. Just then it occurred to me that if they actually knew the game so well why isn’t that even a single cricket tournament won by our batch till date???

One very small angel popped in from neighborhood to give us some extra guidance. It’s the love for the game that matters; age has nothing to do with it. That may be the reason why Tendulkar started crafting history from a very young age.

I could also manage to get few kewl cricket funda and tricks through sms from another obliging angel who also happens to be a cricket freak.

Few of these angels reminded me of John Wright, Greg Chappell, John Buchanan… for reasons unknown! :p

By the way these angels did have few things to feel good about after all the pains they took to make us learn that game. They got enough time to show off their so called sports flair in front of few popular chicks of the class, who were a part of the team. But as I said we did not know much about the game called “CRICKET”, we were very well aware of the other games they were trying to play. So at the end these angels couldn’t actually make much use of the opportunity they got. We could make the most of it though! ;)

The game was played; we lost the match just by a slim margin. But we had great time. And we really loved the spirit of the game. Next time we are confident to spring back with more enthusiasm and dexterity .Hopefully taking few of the tournaments to our acclaim.

[P.S. Women did make some hype even in cricket in recent times. Only difference being that it wasn’t as the players but as the cheering gang!]

Problem! it is....!?

Starting problem

So here I am struggling to pen down my thoughts. No, I am not trying to make this article look interesting by giving it an extra thinking. It’s just that I have a starting problem. [I wonder if this is genetic, nice topic of research for budding scientists :D]

Coming to problems.. they can be grouped broadly into two types. First group includes the problems that really exist and the second one comprises those which are usually self-imagined, self-created. The list coming under the second group are more harming than those in the first one. Why I say this?? You’ll get to know as you read along..

I group: Real problems. Which we have to face, no other go. Solutions can be found to these if real effort is put in and bit of luck does matter here. Like if you are born in a poor family, you can’t help it, you have to go through all that despair and pain that poverty brings along. But with efforts people have been able to raise above their levels. Few have reached places where people born in already flourishing families still dream of reaching some day. Luck plays a role here, as itsn’t actually in our hands to choose our parents our background, their family status..even the people with genetic disorders, mental disabilities fall in to this category. Because for no faults of them they have to go through a lot of dismay. Still brave hearts have been coming into light, who have become a source of inspiration even for the healthy and fortunate. So when your problem falls into this group, there is every chance for finding a solution or at least a hope of reducing the severity of the problem. We just need to have a fighting spirit and self confidence that the so called problem is nothing before man’s will power.

II group: Very harming I say. Self created or self imagined problems find their place here. These things aren’t any problems as such. They are usually cooked up things, usually people who always like being surrounded by some or other mess complain of them. If you see my starting problem also falls into this category. But at least I was able to overcome it, but there are who struggle with it life long. And what a crap is that, just for that “how to start” phobia people take many of their hidden talents unnoticed to their graves. Not taking proper care of our health, finding pleasure in drinking, smoking also are self invited problems. Which can be very well avoided, only if we want to. Well when you are very well aware of the outcome then why do you start complaining of the problem when it’s the actual time of facing it. Why do you or your family people doubt the medical science when it could do no good to your lung cancer which comes along as a package with your cigarette pack..or be it hepatic failure accompanying your bottles with the best tasting drink. Rash driving, laziness to fulfill responsibilities, not acting at proper time, not preparing for the test on next day etc are few of the random problems comprising this list.

So as you see these things aren’t actually problems, they are actually self-invited events.

Its better you face their results rather than complaining about them.

And yeah if your problem falls into the first group then my best wishes to overcome them and coming to second group its better if you keep that list short. You’ll be happy and so the people around you..

SoMeTiMeS...

Sometimes

I ask myself..

Who am I ?!

Sometimes I feel I am not actually wanted by any..

Things to be cared for except me are many..

I do realize it is family that always comes first..

To be liked by others is a never satisfied thirst…

Sometimes

I am gud, I am bad..

I am sweet, I am sad..

Sometimes I have many things to say..

But my lips remain zipped and the words don’t make their way..

There are many things about this life for me to know..

Learning on my own pace..running fast and slow…

Sometimes

I am sensible, I am wild..

I am arrogant, I am mild..

Sometimes I wish to b a beautiful princess..

But I would prefer a sports bike to that I confess.

I wana soar up in the sky..

Though till this day I could only see my kite fly..

Sometimes

I am smart, I am dumb..

I am active, I am numb..

Sometimes I am very childish or too mature they say..

It isn’t easy to pretend always happy and gay..

Have many dreams to fulfill..

They will become reality, unless destiny plans them to kill..

Sometimes

I am mess, I am pretty..

I am dull, I am witty..

Sometimes I wonder among family, love, friends, money what am I gona choose..

Ah! No thinking for this, I would never want anyone of them to lose..

Is it really required for me to make my life great..

Is there anyone to show a path which isn’t messy but straight..

Days pass on..

Life moves on…

Still….

Sometimes..

I ask myself…

Who am I ?!